A mommy, wife and friend…a survior of child sexual abuse

I’ve written before the problems with that Grandma, yeah the one that is the mother to Alan my molester.  Well, there is drama with her AGAIN.  If you need a little catching up please read here and here.  I have not spoken or seen her since my older son’s birthday.  She has not called and I have been okay with that.  A couple of weeks again she attempted to talk to me, I did not hear or see the cell phone ringing so I did not answer.  She left a message, wanting to know info about the baby.  She also called my mom, twice.  She did not answer the phone for her, either time.  My mom told me of the calls which prompted me to check that message she left.  I never called her back.  Spoke to the hubby about it and came to the conclusion it is just best that I let her go.  I do not enjoy being around her.  She has to ALWAYS attack and complain about everyone in her life.  Not enjoyable when she starts in on you.  I also believe she touched her son (Alan) when he was young.  He no longer really has any contact with her either.  I only know this because every time I would see her she would complain he doesn’t call her.  Anywoo…this past week she called again.  And once again I did not see or hear the phone ring, I much too busy for phone calls these days.  So when I checked my voice mail here is the message I had.

“My name here why haven’t you called me (she is very angry and her tone is….like crazy women) I’ve been trying to contact you to find out about the baby (she never once called to check on me…like I care) I had to find out you had the baby from the ~ “F-Bomb” here ~ newspaper (crap had I known she would have read it I would not have allowed the announcement to be there…didn’t think of that while I was all drugged up in the hospital).  Then she hung up.  Well I deleted that damn voice message and went on with my day.

Now here is my dilemma, I don’t want to have contact with her.  The hubby and I both believe that side of the family is toxic to me.  Do I write or do I let the hubby call her and explain???