The Truth and Nothing But
As some of you may have read on my hubby’s blog, this past Friday was a pretty bad evening for the both of us. We had a very intense conversation in our bedroom away from the children. That has always been something we felt was important. To try not to argue or fight when the kids were able to see or hear us. Our conversation was very honest and I began to open up to him and honestly tell him my feelings. It has not been easy for me over the past few years. Having a kid really does change things for any relationship or marriage. There is a whole new element added in there. It has been very rough for our relationship these past three and a half years. As my hubby’s blog is titled it is very appropriate for where our relationship is now. Why is that? Why has something changed in our relationship? With the change in caring for a baby (now a three year old and a baby). The stress of work, finances, this and that we have seemed to both become unhappy in our marriage. We have just been “going along” and not living our lives together. The day in and day out things have defined who we changed in to. We lost what we had before. Who the hell knows why that truely happens to some. The thing now is to get back to it. Get back to a happy marriage and family. For our relationship, for our kids and for ourselves!
The hubby mentioned in his post that since Friday was horrible “this weekend will probably be the same”. Well, I can truthfully tell you it has been a wonderful weekend. For the first time I truely went to bed not mad at my hubby, and I woke Saturday morning happy. His daughter was over this weekend and I feel it went well. I did not distance myself from her and I interacted with her better. Sunday was no different. The grandparents took the two older kids for the afternoon and the baby was asleep. So for the first time in almost a year we had one of these moments while the sun was up! That put the hubby in a good mood for the rest of the afternoon. So much so he fixed my bleeding heart vine outside (on his own); it had been knocked over in a storm. Thank you honey!!!
At Work
Back to work I am, not much I can write at the moment as I am at my desk on my lunch hour. An update on my son’s ant bites, they are healing very nicely, the beach on Saturday helped a lot. The baby is still getting adjusted to being with the MIL. I however on the hand have my hands full in the evenings as baby cries and eats like he hasn’t eaten all day. Why is that? I have to assume the MIL is feeding him. Does he need mommy that much? Anywhoo, must go for now…until next blog…happy days to you.
When Ants Attack
My older son had only been back to day care two days when I received a call at work. They were calling me to inform me that he had been bitten by ants. They didn’t want me to be surprised by how many bites he had received. Ok, so I’m thinking 10 to maybe 20 bites at most. When I pick him up his left arm look horrible. All the bites are concentrated around his elbow. The day care had continued to put after bite on them and a cool compress. That was good, but they should have made me come pick him up. When the hubby got home, he counted the bites. My son received about 52 ant bites. 52 bites people! That is WAY TOO MANY!!! I thank God he did not have a severe allergic reaction. Thank goodness the baby had a doctors appointment yesterday because I called and got my son in too. So now he has been getting benadryl and a topical cream several times a day. While I’m left telling him not to scratch. Am I mad at the day care? Hell yes! But what can I do about it now? The hubby said he was going to call and see what their plans were for killing the ants. Let’s hope this never happens to another kid, and most certainly NOT MY SON!
Can I have your thoughts?
I really want everyone’s honest thoughts on this please. The hubby and I have a three bedroom house, average size, and he has an office. One day we hope to close in the back porch to make it a play room for the kids; but that will cost a few thousand dollars. I need your help with this. My oldest son has his own room currently, decked out to the hill with Winnie the Pooh; while my step daughter has her own room. While right now the baby will stay in my hubby and my room he will eventually get moved to the crib and another room. My step daughter has only been over to our house for one night since the baby has been born; baby is 8 weeks today. All choices of her own not to come over. We have a set of bunk beds where she sleeps on the top and the bottom bunk is the bed in my older sons room he sleeps on (when he sleeps there). I’ve expressed to the hubby that that room is wasted space and is hardly used. I would like to make it the older sons room (and deck it out with Lightening McQueen or Transformers) while the baby will move into the Winnie the Pooh room aka nursery. While I understand my hubby’s concern with his daughter not having her own room, I feel as the boys get older it will be more unfair for each of them not to have their own room while one is empty. By all means we will never take away a place for her to sleep, her clothes and her toys, books, and games she has at our place. Oh can’t forget her impressive collection of Bratz Dolls! I want to be understanding of my hubby’s concerns but at the same time I feel I have to look out for my sons first. They live here 24/7 365 days a year. Not every other weekend, or when they choose. What should we do? Oh yeah, buying a four bedroom house is not an option at this time. DAMN!
Things to do today
Things I want to do today:
~ Laundry
~ Sweep/mop wood floors
~ Dishwasher
~ Clean out leftovers from fridge
~ Vacuum
Things I will do today:
~ Spend time with my boys
~ Enjoy an awesome steak dinner the hubby will cook
~ Relax and watch TV
Grandma Woes…AGAIN
I’ve written before the problems with that Grandma, yeah the one that is the mother to Alan my molester. Well, there is drama with her AGAIN. If you need a little catching up please read here and here. I have not spoken or seen her since my older son’s birthday. She has not called and I have been okay with that. A couple of weeks again she attempted to talk to me, I did not hear or see the cell phone ringing so I did not answer. She left a message, wanting to know info about the baby. She also called my mom, twice. She did not answer the phone for her, either time. My mom told me of the calls which prompted me to check that message she left. I never called her back. Spoke to the hubby about it and came to the conclusion it is just best that I let her go. I do not enjoy being around her. She has to ALWAYS attack and complain about everyone in her life. Not enjoyable when she starts in on you. I also believe she touched her son (Alan) when he was young. He no longer really has any contact with her either. I only know this because every time I would see her she would complain he doesn’t call her. Anywoo…this past week she called again. And once again I did not see or hear the phone ring, I much too busy for phone calls these days. So when I checked my voice mail here is the message I had.
“My name here why haven’t you called me (she is very angry and her tone is….like crazy women) I’ve been trying to contact you to find out about the baby (she never once called to check on me…like I care) I had to find out you had the baby from the ~ “F-Bomb” here ~ newspaper (crap had I known she would have read it I would not have allowed the announcement to be there…didn’t think of that while I was all drugged up in the hospital). Then she hung up. Well I deleted that damn voice message and went on with my day.
Now here is my dilemma, I don’t want to have contact with her. The hubby and I both believe that side of the family is toxic to me. Do I write or do I let the hubby call her and explain???
Let the anxieties begin
This is my last week home and I’ve already begun thinking of the day I go back to work. I’m already beginning to have anxieties about it. Not only about being away from the baby, which by the way I have not been away from him for more then 2 hours, but also about my mother-in-law watching him. Don’t get me wrong I’m glad she is watching him, and I know she has raised children before, BUT… Her methods are different then mine and what I may or may not want her to do MAY not be respected. In the past I have experienced no respect for my expressed concerns on certain things. Case and point here. Also too, she has never delt with breastmilk. Yes, I have already started putting together the dos and don’ts of breastmilk. Yet, this still has not helped! Just watch I will probably call her like every two hours, asking the hubby to call on the off hours!! This week is going to fly by!! I DON’T WANT TO GO BACK TO WORK!
No Cat of Mine
When the hubby and I first got together I loved cats, but now that has somewhat changed. I still love cats, just not in my house. I’ve had a cat for the past 7 or 8 years now. She is the sweetest little thing. Don’t get me wrong, she can be a little bitch at times and is a BIG pain in the butt (for only being say 7lbs). I used to have the cat sit on my lap and pet her, I would let her sleep in the bed and I would also allow her on the furniture. That all has changed now. After having my first son I slowly stopped letting her on the bed and didn’t pet her much anymore. When I got pregnant again I instantly stopped allowing her on all the furniture and didn’t pet her at all. That has not changed now the baby is here. She still wants the attention, but only gets it from the hubby. Talking to a friend over the weekend, she had heard this happening to women after having children. The cat was my “baby”, but now that I have two she is not. She is getting old now, so we do not know how much longer she will be here. We aren’t sure if we want to keep her now or not. Anyone else have this happen too?
