A mommy, wife and friend…a survior of child sexual abuse

The hubby and I have been watching “I Marriage“, a very good and informative video for couples, married or not.  It talks of not expecting things from you souse, like don’t expect to come home to a clean house and dinner waiting on the table.  Keep your expectations as just desires.  Things you would like them to do for you, but don’t expect.  Then do not be upset or frustrated at them when that desire is not met.

Somehow, somewhere in the marriage (or relationship) somethings begin to change and we start to expect our spouse to just know that they are supposed to do “that chore”.  Well, we really shouldn’t.  This is where it’s get tricky, we don’t, or some of us anyways, just don’t think about it anymore.  We sit back work our little hinnies off trying to keep a clean house, do all this stuff and we feel that ‘they’ are doing as much as we are.

Well, I’ve learned to let that go now, I’ve said learned!  That doesn’t mean it is as easy to do as it is said.  I’ve also learned that our spouse should take these things to do as a priority for our spouse to fulfill their desires.  And no this doesn’t just stop at housework or chores.  Yes it does invovle intimacy and sex.  It is not an easy thing to start to do if you’ve been so used to just expecting these things from your spouse.  But working and changing for the better is good for the both of you.