Where is my hubby?
I have to give my hubby 2 kudos!! Why? He is not himself lately, or is he? All I know is he has surprised me today, and well for a couple of days now. Stepping up and doing some of the stuff in the house I usually have to remind or constantly ask if he was going to do them. Then this past weekend I asked him to pull out all the old mulch and replace it. Instead he has completely pulled out all the plants, expanding the flower bed and replacing everything, including new bark. OMG! Where is my hubby??? Not that I am complaining, but I’m not used to this so much. I did feel bad this weekend that I really could not help him. Seeing’s how I’m only 6 weeks away from having a baby! I did do a little bit here and there to help, until he told me to go into the house. I’m liking this side of my hubby!
Really makes me sick
It really makes me sick that you hear almost on a daily basis a child being molested or a man attempting to meet with a teenage girl to have sex with her. As a survivor of sexual abuse this just makes me competely sick to my core. What is it in these men (sorry, but most are men) that drives them to want to touch or have sex with a kid. They are kids! They by law and by maturity have not reached adulthood. They can not make wise mature decisions about sex. They truely can not defend themselves against these munipulative and scary men. It’s just so sad. I know you hear more about it now then you did say 20 years ago because let’s face it, back then it wasn’t spoken of. Why? Well, most of the time when a girl is molested it is a family member or someone that girl knows. And to save everyone it is hushed or not spoken. Sometimes it is shoved under the rug. But that only hurts the victim again. That molester is free to do it again and again and again. No they do not stop just because they got caught, they are sick in the head and they continue until the law confines them in an instiutional place where they can’t get to their victims. Then the victim is sent into counseling when it really is not just them that needs it. Their support system needs to be invovled too. There is a lifetime of recovery. Hear that – a lifetime! Depending on the degree of abuse it can really damage a girl’s self-being and the core of who they are.
I don’t mean to Expect…
The hubby and I have been watching “I Marriage“, a very good and informative video for couples, married or not. It talks of not expecting things from you souse, like don’t expect to come home to a clean house and dinner waiting on the table. Keep your expectations as just desires. Things you would like them to do for you, but don’t expect. Then do not be upset or frustrated at them when that desire is not met.
Somehow, somewhere in the marriage (or relationship) somethings begin to change and we start to expect our spouse to just know that they are supposed to do “that chore”. Well, we really shouldn’t. This is where it’s get tricky, we don’t, or some of us anyways, just don’t think about it anymore. We sit back work our little hinnies off trying to keep a clean house, do all this stuff and we feel that ‘they’ are doing as much as we are.
Well, I’ve learned to let that go now, I’ve said learned! That doesn’t mean it is as easy to do as it is said. I’ve also learned that our spouse should take these things to do as a priority for our spouse to fulfill their desires. And no this doesn’t just stop at housework or chores. Yes it does invovle intimacy and sex. It is not an easy thing to start to do if you’ve been so used to just expecting these things from your spouse. But working and changing for the better is good for the both of you.
