Confirmation
Recently I wrote about my dilemma with my grandma. Well I have my confirmation of what to do now. The enlightenment occured recently at my sons birthday party. Before the party I was torn as to whether to invite her or not. My heart said no, my guilt said yes. I invited her and because of her age I arranged for my mom to pick her up since she drives by her house on the way to mine. Well, it didn’t take 10 minutes before I regretted inviting her. When she and my mom arrived my house was still in the middle of being straightened. My hubby and two friends, besides myself, were working to get it all together for the party. It was obvious I was very busy. I greeted her and my mom and went back to my business. When out of nowhere this women in a demanding and demeanor tone says “well are you going to give me a damn kiss!” I gave her the “how dare you and who the hell are you to demand that” look. It was a long pause and then she said, “Can I have a kiss please.” Damn how hard would it have been to start with that. I only gave her a hug. I was pissed now.
Ok, next situation. I was standing by the table talking to people when out of nowhere my grandma reaches up to my boob and with two fingers grabs it as she says “Looks like you are taking after me.” Oh HELL NO! You do not touch someone like that! My answer “UNFORTUNATELY yes!” as I walk away. STRIKE TWO!
Next situation, yes there are more. I was helping my son open his gifts and the first was my grandmas. As I pull out the stuff from the bag I pull out this white car toy that is filthy! I’m not saying just a little dusty or dirt. Filthy! Like someone had it on their back porch for years! It was disgusting! My son does NOT deserve dirt crap toys! Ok, next item I pull out is an outfit, with a quick look I say to myself this looks like for a little girl. Ok, quickly put this crap down and move on to the next gift. Later on after she is gone I pull this outfit back out. Holy crap it IS for a girl. I asked the hubby, he agrees. I asked my friend, she too agrees. WHAT the F**K! Ok, a little history here would be good. I have a little cousin, a girl, she is about 4 and wears about a 5/6. So this outfit that is obviously for a girl is a 4T. Anyone can guess what happened here. My grandma bought this outfit for my cousin, it didn’t fit her, and now she was pawning it off on my son! Oh hell no! STRIKE THREE. It’s bad enough that she gives my son the short end of the stick because his birthday is so close to Christmas and only buys him ONE GIFT A YEAR! Now she is pulling this crap!
Well, that toy went in the trash and this is the only time I will go to Wal-Mart. That outfit, oh and I forgot to mention, had NO tags on it, was from Wal-Mart and thank heaven they gave me money for it when I returned it. If not if would have ended up on my Grandmas porch with a little note.
My hubby said something that I have thought much about. I was very upset with the events that passed with my Grandma and it bothered me a lot. He told me that I need to break away from that side of the family as it causes too much pain for me. He is right! I need to do just that! So now I need to decide if a letter is the way to go or just walking away silently.
What’s New?
Basically pregnancy and my new job -no mostly pregnancy- have been consuming my life that I have very little time to blog. So what is new now with the pregnancy? I’m about 11 weeks, so close to getting over all this nausea I’m having. I can’t wait. Had my first ultra sound last week, baby is looking good. My due date is June 20th.
New job is also going good. Slow, but that is how it goes sometimes when you are the new kid. Ladies I work with are all very nice, that helps.
Not looking forward to Christmas so much this year, being flat broke and all. I want nothing but stuff for my son. It is all for him. Which he turns 3 next week! Wow! He is getting so big, and such a firecracker he is.
That is all for now!
