Some Facts for you
Every Two and a Half Minutes
Submitted by darceyw on Sun, 2005-09-25 22:53.
Every two and a half minutes, somewhere in America, someone is sexually assaulted.
How’d we come up with that number?
Here’s the math. There are 525,600 minutes in a non-leap year (365 days x 24 hours x 60 minutes = 525,600). That makes 31,536,000 seconds per year (525,600 minutes x 60 seconds = 31,536,000).
According to the US Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey — the country’s largest and most reliable crime study — there were an average of 200,780 sexual assaults each year in 2004-2005 (the most recent data available).
So: 31,536,000 divided by 200,780 comes out to one sexual assault every 157 seconds, or about one every two and a half minutes.
Sexual assault vs. rape
One more thing we should point out: Notice that we said one “sexual assault,” not one “rape.” What’s the difference? Sexual assault is a broader category that the Justice Department uses to classify rape, attempted rape, and other violent felonies that fall short of rape (which it defines as “forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration”).
Of the estimated 200,780 annual violent sex crimes, 64,080 were completed rapes. So, if you want a figure that covers only rape and excludes attempted rape and sexual assault, divide 31,536,000 by 64,080. That comes out to one rape every 492 seconds or so, or about one rape every 8 minutes.
Information from www.RAINN.org
Strike One – Mom
I finally got the nerve to tell my mom that I filed charges against Alan. All I can say is that I am glad it is over with. I really didn’t know what to expect, all I know is I’m just a little let down. I got NO words of encouragement from my mom. NO I’m proud of you. NO that must have been hard, you are a strong women. NO I’m behind you all the way. NO I support you 100%. NOTHING! Zilch! NADA damn thing! What to do, what to do. OH, wait, she did throw out there the excuse why she didn’t think it was best to go to the police, and why she did what she did. YIKES! Didn’t work then, doesn’t work now. I told her once an abuser always an abuser; that I was not the only one he did something to (I know for fact); and told her that I know in my heart he is still sick and WILL do this again given the chance. Gees, I still don’t think she grasps it all. I think I will have to sit down with her and give her a play by play. Look mom, it was sexual abuse, incest, molestation! What more can I say for you to grasp it! Damn!
Ok, breathe! Nothing worth getting all worked up over. I’m sure she will be having some very deep conversation with me in the future. IT’S ABOUT TIME TOO!
My Love…I know you feel it too
My husband of 5 years told me yesterday that what I am going through – he is also going through. I was in a sort of “mood” this weekend that I could not put my finger on. I’m not the best at sharing these little details to my husband, am trying though. So Saturday night was just another night for me, and another let down for my husband. You see I did not want to be intimate with him. I’ve had my fair share of feeling like a piece of meat from other men that my husband feels the effects of it, that combined with the abuse. So I’m not alone in this process. I was able to express that something was effecting me this weekend and that I could not put it in to words for him to understand. But that was enough, he was ok with that and that it wasn’t him. I know this time for my healing is going to be hard for him, but no one said it was going to be easy. I just hope he can be patient with me and understand that in the end things will be better.